Not motivated to lose weight? Let’s flip the script on 12 common lies we tell ourselves that kill our motivation!

How many times have you started a new fitness program but quit before you saw results?

Consistency works but maintaining that consistency until the job is done is hard.

Think of it this way – painting a house takes some time, but it doesn’t take as long as building it.

If you’re trying to reverse years of self neglect like I had to do, you’re building the house, my friend.

This mental game is huge!

Let’s start working on the skill of flipping negative self talk to something that is going to help you.

This is too hard. —> This may take some time and effort, but I’ve done hard stuff before.

For those times when you’re starting to feel really impatient and you tell yourself…

I’m not making progress. —> Progress is happening even if I can’t see it.

I used to remind myself that I am making changes at the cellular level and it’s going to take a while before I see them in the mirror.


I’m never going to reach my goal. —> Consistency and patience work. Trust the process.


If you’re scrolling on social media, looking at other people’s accounts and you start comparing…

I’ll never look like that. —> I can improve where I am right now. I only compete with me.


You’re going to have days where it feels impossible and you’re going to tell yourself…

I can’t do this. —> Oh yeah?  Watch me.

I don’t know what I’m doing. —> I can get help. I can learn and I can improve.

I can’t make this work the way it should be done. —> How can I make this work with my life?

You will not do your program perfectly according to somebody else, something online, or some book.  You’re going to make it work inside the constraints of your own life.

I’m too busy. —> I have to think outside the box to make this work.


I’m too old to start now. —> Right now, today, this is the youngest I’m going to be.  If I don’t start now – when?


I’m too out of shape.  I don’t want to go to the gym. I don’t want people to see what I’ve let happen.    —>  I won’t be out of shape if I start and don’t quit.

Please remind yourself to that every body in  the gym was a beginner at some point and people really don’t pay attention to what other people are doing.  And even if they do, so what?  You’re there to make improvements in your health and your life for really good reasons.  What other people think doesn’t matter.


It’ll take too long. —> It will take longer if I quit, I control what I do today.

Look, it’s going to take as long as it’s going to take. You can’t put something on a calendar and say “I will be in this shape by this day”.  But you know that if you don’t do anything, that day will never come.


I don’t feel like working out today. —> I just need to show up and do something.

Usually that’s really all you have to think about. Just make yourself show up and do something that day.

It doesn’t have to be perfect.

It doesn’t have to be what you have planned.

And more than likely, once you get there, you may feel more motivated.

Just do something.

Don’t break the habit.

Don’t let yourself down.

Don’t break this promise.

Stay consistent.

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Hi!  I'm Tammy!  I was a busy, stressed, and unhealthy teacher until I decided to take control of my health.  I did not become an athlete until I was in my 50's!

I earned personal training and fitness nutrition certifications, then retired from teaching to dedicate my work life to fitness education for other busy women over 40.

My results are obviously not typical because most people don't train to compete as a bodybuilder.

But I believe everyone can make positive changes with healthy habits!  Each of us has a unique combination of strengths and challenges that need to be considered to customize a program that will work for us.  Science-based principles, flexibility, and consistency make all the difference.

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