I’m 54 today. When I was a kid, my mom made me a heart shaped birthday cake every year. That was awesome! I looked forward to it every year. Once I wasn’t a kid, a Valentine’s Day birthday started to be a drag. It’s hard to go out for a quiet birthday dinner without fighting crowds.
Hubby always makes it nice. He’s awesome.
I’m sure most don’t think 54 is “old”, but I am very aware that I’ll be lucky if there are 54 birthdays ahead. In fact, my mother died when she was 56. Her early death was a motivating factor for me to fix my health in the first place. Also a motivating factor to quit wishing to be a bodybuilder and actually do it. It seems likely that I will live longer than she did. Even so, I want to live as though nothing is promised. Friends my age have died unexpectedly. Each day is a gift. Each hour is a gift.
As hard as I’m trying to work my gratitude, I’m feeling old today. I have a sense of urgency to do things because there may not be much time left to do them. I have things I want to accomplish in my sport and I started bodybuilding late. When I get in a funk, I feel sorry for myself and feel isolated. That’s when I feel really old. Too old for this. Silly old woman trying to hang in a sport with younger folks. Most of the people I know who train like I train are decades younger and we don’t seem to relate to each other well. Different life stages, perhaps, but also my introversion makes it hard for me to establish connections quickly. And I probably make a few uncomfortable. Many people my age or gender don’t want to lift – much less lift heavy. Yup, old and weird. I’m sure many have no idea why I’m doing this thing.
But when I lift, I don’t feel old. There is something about training that makes everything else go away. I’m calm. I’m focused. I feel like I’m in my element. A fish in water. I feel like that in my classroom, too. It’s everyplace else where I feel like I just don’t quite fit in. And maybe that’s a good thing. Mostly that’s a good thing, I guess. Just have these days…and they aren’t always birthdays.